Do other people take up too much headspace?
If you’re tired of overthinking relationships, worrying what people think & putting everyone else first, you’re in the right place.
Areas we can work on:
Worrying what people think & not "feeling enough"
You replay conversations with everyone wondering how you came across & whether people like you.
You compare yourself to others & strive to feel good enough, but your inner voice always says you need to do more.
You’ve spent so long adapting yourself to be who you think everyone wants that you’ve lost touch with you who really are
People Pleasing
Saying no feels like a language you were never taught & the thought of having boundaries fills you with dread.
You feel responsible for everyones emotions & carry pressure to keep everyone happy. Prioritsing yourself feels uncomfortable because you’ve spent years putting yourself second.
Feeling insecure in friendships
Maintaining friendships feels harder than it should because everything feels personal, such as a last-minute cancellation or a slow reply.
Overthinking & self doubt stop you reaching out, being yourself & deepening connections & you feel more isolated than you would like.
You please your friends as a way of keeping them close but are still constantly on alert for rejection.
My Therapy Approach
I blend evidence-based approaches including CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Compassion Focused Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (mindfulness) to create a powerful, practical approach for low self worth, anxiety & people pleasing.
We’ll explore your childhood relationships & key events to understand what’s shaping your present. I’ll help you identify key patterns keeping you stuck & get a clear idea of what you want to be different.
Each session we’ll then take small steps to help you work towards your goals by empowering your with practical tools to regulate your nervous system, increase self worth & feel more secure in relationships.
We can also use powerful trauma, informed techniques to help you process events from your past that have created limiting beliefs
Clients who work with me notice these changes:
- Spending less time overthinking interactions & able to focus on what matters (work, family etc)
- Feeling more at ease when socialising instead of scanning for what people think
- Feeling steady even if friends cancel or don't reply quickly
- Having more energy for themselves instead of keeping everyone happy
- Experiencing deeper, stronger & more joyful friendships & connections
- Feeling more confident to make decisions about whats right for them
- Better able to communicate their needs in relationships
- Talking to themselves more kindly & beating themselves up less
What its like to work with me
Therapy with me is likely to feel different to what you’ve had before, or what you might expect from a stereotypical therapist.
I won’t just sit silently nodding repeating what I hear. I bring my personality, expertise & life experience into the room, whilst still making sure the session is yours.
I’m a down-to-earth northerner and pride myself on creating a space where you can feel completely at ease. Clients often tell me they feel able to open up quickly in sessions, whilst also leaving with a deeper understanding of themselves & practical tools to make lasting changes.
Practical Stuff
How much are sessions?
I charge from £79 per session, which includes regular emails with resources to support you between sessions, such as worksheets and guided meditations
How long will it take?
It’s hard to say, as some people get what they need after a few months, whilst others need longer – particularly if we’re working through childhood trauma.
It also depends on what we’re working on and how much you’re able to engage with the work between sessions.
When/where are sessions?
I offer weekly or fortnightly online therapy sessions and currently work Tuesday–Thursday, 10am–4pm.
I can only offer therapy to people living in the UK and Europe, but I do offer coaching packages for people living elsewhere.
Next Steps
It’s important that I feel like the right therapist for you — and that you feel comfortable working with me too.
That’s why I offer a free consultation where we can discuss what you’d like support with and get a feel for working together.
You can click the link below to book your consultation, or email me with any questions you may have.